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Hey Reader!

I’m sure you’ve heard that phrase before. I’ve been reflecting a lot lately about how the sheer volume of external information, images, and experiences is affecting how much comparison we have going on these days.

Think about it.

When we have a “problem” we want to fix, who or what do we turn to? Friends, family, Google?

From there we are barraged with advice, opinions, studies, horror stories, people who think they know all the right answers and love to tell you how you are doing everything wrong.

What would it look like to first turn inward?

The truth is we each know more than we give ourselves credit for. What might it be like to ask ourselves what we know, what we’re really seeking in a solution to our problem, how much we are willing to change about what we are currently doing to get closer to what we want? We might be surprised about what wisdom we already have if only we took the time to ask and listen.

The other thing that happens is when we do turn to outside sources for additional input, we have much more capacity to sift through the bullshit and filter for more of what we want because we have a better idea of what that is.

When we are able to do this we build self-trust, the most powerful tool in any healing journey or self-actualization process.

Paddle your own canoe.

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Many of us have a lifetime’s worth of practice doubting ourselves, trying to avoid making the wrong choice, believing that others know best, or have a better track record. It is hard to trust yourself if you’ve had very little practice and if you’ve been taught by others, or by your own experience that you are not enough.

But the truth is you are the designer of your own experience. You are unique. What is best for someone else is NOT what’s best for you and you get to decide what IS. In fact, you are the ONLY one who can. So the more you can practice asking and listening to that small voice who still knows this, the more rapport you begin to build with it. That self-trust builds self-esteem and confidence.

Keep your eyes on your own paper.

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Once you have listened to yourself enough to sort through your options and choose something to try to solve your problem, it’s time to make a commitment to a plan of action.

This plan is an experiment. It’s an option that you have chosen to try for a specified period of time. Perhaps you have a hypothesis about what might happen as a result. You have measures to be able to tell if the experiment is working. Perhaps you change up some variables if you learn that something is not working in order to see if that changes the results. You are reasonable about how many factors you experiment with at one time so you don’t become confused or overwhelmed.

When you make this kind of structured commitment to yourself and parameters of the experiment, you also build self-trust and self-efficacy.

Usually people quit before they get to this point.

Worries about choosing the right thing, or not being able to do it, or the idea that it might work for others but it won’t for me, and any number of self-protective fears will hold us back. That’s when we tap back into our deeper knowing, get clearer about our experiment, and give ourselves achievable wins to build that self-trust again.

Trust the process.

It won’t always feel good or easy, but there will be days where something shifts. You have an aha moment, you go beyond a previous limit, something just feels different. That’s when you know you’re on the right track.

And for every one of those instances, there might be a couple hard days, meh days, unfocused days, etc. Remember why you’re doing this on those days and see where you are now compared to when you began for perspective. Most of all, seek to enjoy the journey and the practice in itself.

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Knowing when to try something different.

You have to give any change in behavior a little bit of time to gather data and develop a routine, but you also have the option to switch it up if it’s not working or you are not approaching it in a healthy way. How do you know when to try something else?

Some examples are:

• The experiment feels like punishment and you are being too hard on yourself
• You are actively avoiding doing the experiment repetitively
• It feels like you are just going through the motions and you’ve lost the plot.

At this point it can be best to take a break, connect to yourself again and what brings you pleasure. Take the pressure off or tap into what would best support you right NOW. Again, you have the answers. The need for a switch does not signify failure. It’s simply learning more about what supports you and what doesn’t. It’s not always the tool or action either, it might just be the approach you took. Take stock of what you learned.

How coaching comes in.

It’s helpful to surround yourself with people who believe in you as you make changes and trust you as you learn to trust yourself. As a coach, I help you learn how to find your own path, to turn off all the noise, advice, and endless information and contradictory information and turn up the volume of of own inner wisdom.

I ask questions you haven’t dared ask yourself or didn’t know you could ask. I reflect back your powerful thoughts and contradictions in a way that helps you see and understand yourself better.

I help you craft your experiments to fully understand what you are trying to do, how you plan to go about doing it, and how it might affect you, your health, and your life.

I fully believe you are your own best expert and I create a container where you can explore your options, conduct your experiments, celebrate your wins, and learn from your experiences in a way that brings you closer to what you really need and who you really are. Do I have resources? Yes. Are they always the perfect one for you? Only you know that. What I can help you do is find what IS. I help you know yourself, trust yourself, and help yourself.

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Don’t compare and don’t despair. You have everything you need. Let’s uncover it together!

With love,

Coach Katie

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