Hey Reader!

Today is Day of the Dead. So thinking about our own mortality is not too far of a stretch at this moment, right?

In her book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, Bronnie Ware, a palliative care nurse, interviewed dozens of people at the end of life about what they most regretted.

This was the #1 answer:

I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

If you were to suddenly find yourself with very little time left, where might you be in relation to living an authentic life?

Would you spend much time on fitting in or would you try to leave your unique mark on the world without a care to what anyone else thinks?

Do you feel like you have given up a lot of who you really are in order to be accepted (into your family, into society, a work culture, or friend group?)

We all have to do this to some degree. We can’t have little narcissists running around! But problems arise when the balance tips too far in favor of attachment over authenticity. Many actions that once led to attachment and safety no longer serve us and we confuse the behavior for who we are.

Here are some of the ways learned attachment patterns show up.

Stuffing emotions
Hiding ourselves
People-pleasing
Perfectionism
Harsh Inner Critic
The Need to Control
The Need to be Right
The need to achieve to be acceptable

The longer we lean on these things, the more dysregulated our nervous systems become. This can lead to both mental and physical distress, addiction, and chronic disease.

“‘If I am authentic, I won’t be loved anymore. If I am not loved, I won’t survive.’ This is the source of all pathology, whether it’s physical or mental.”

-Gabor Maté

Gabor Maté speaks more about this idea here:

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The truth is you are and always have been worthy of love just by existing. The conditions put on you or you put on yourself in order to be loved don’t have to hold you back from that truth.

Authenticity Coaching

In coaching many people with chronic symptoms over the past two years, I have discovered that they are often struggling with attachment patterns that are no longer serving them.

Wouldn’t it be great to be able to address this imbalance before it results in chronic symptoms?

This is what led me to develop a new coaching offering aimed at becoming more of who you were meant to be in the world.

With authenticity comes ease, freedom and possibility.

What would be possible if you truly felt at home in your body and around many different kinds of people? If you didn’t feel any need to apologize for who you are?

As your health coach, I will:

Guide you as you find your unique path to wellbeing and authenticity.
Partner with you as you explore your vision of a healthy, happy life.
Help you identify the challenges you are currently facing, and find solutions to them that will get you closer to your goals.

Together we find your unique definition of healthy thriving!

Not one of us can do it alone. We need reflection and support from another to help us see our greatest strengths and leverage those strengths to be who we were meant to be in this world.

Your thoughts?

As I further develop this service, I would love to hear how the struggle between authenticity and attachment or acceptance shows up for you and where you’re feeling stuck as a result! Please shoot me an email or voice memo with your thoughts.

OR

If you’re interested in a free 45 min coaching call to figure out a first step, schedule a time! This is only available to the people on my email list. (No commitment or pressure for further sessions involved!)

Schedule a Free Authenticity Coaching Session!

With love,

Coach Katie

1:1 Coaching

Feeling stuck in your habits, mindset, health goals, or life in general?

Coaching helps you organize your thoughts, make discoveries about what’s really important to you, and create movement toward overall well being.

Benefits of Coaching

Increased self trust, confidence, and direction
Engagement in behavior aligned with core values
Greater ease
Less overwhelm
Increased contentment
Improved relationships
Stronger boundaries
Clearer thinking
Better sleep
More energy
Decreased irritability
Personalized, effective tools and strategies to get more of what you want!

Sounds pretty dang good, huh?

Coaching is individualized. I work with: people in pain to help them implement the tools to settle their nervous systems, people who are looking to make a major life transition, people looking to eat better and exercise more, people wanting better boundaries with others, and more!

Coaching is a partnership. You are committed to showing up for yourself and working toward change and I am committed to helping you see your strengths, set your strategies, celebrate your successes, learn from your failures, and grow into the best version of yourself you can be.

Ready to learn more? I encourage you to schedule a no-commitment, free initial session with me to understand more about how this approach can help you, see if we’re a good fit, and walk away with a tangible next step toward something you’re currently working on.

Schedule a Free Intro Session

Some recent praise:

“I have been working with the Katie for about 4 months now. She has been amazing and has offered information and videos specifically geared towards me and my healing. I have been in pain for about 12 years solid, every single day. In the past four months since I started with Katie, my pain has been reduced significantly, and I am starting to have days with no pain at all. When the pain starts, I now know how to handle the pain and how to calm my nervous system so that I can deal with it better. I would coaching with Katie to anyone who is suffering with chronic pain.” -Debbie C.

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I love hearing from you! What are you thinking about these days? How did this email land for you? Want to vent, celebrate, discuss? I’m here for it all!

Contact me at katie@coachkatiewellbeing.com or via my website coachkatiewellbeing.com